do i really not apologize?what do i have to apologize for? i mean i'm pretty nice to people, if i bump into someone i say "excuse me" or if i call someone by the wrong name, i always apologize. so what is he talking about??!!
so now i am extra, super self conscious that i don't say "i'm sorry" i don't want to be one of THOSE ppl who are too prideful and never apologize. sooo . . . i gathered some information to make me a better aplogizer. i have decided to share it:
A proper apology should always include the following:
 | a detailed account of the situation | |
| | acknowledgement of the hurt or damage done | |
| | taking responsibility for the situation | |
| | recognition of your role in the event | |
| | a statement of regret | |
| | asking for forgiveness | |
| | a promise that it won't happen again | |
| | a form of restitution whenever possible |
that sure is a lot of stuff, but i am dedicated to apologizing and doing it correctly. i will even teach it to my offspring. i will no longer tell Devyn to say he's sorry to his sister when practices karate on her. His apologies will now sound like this:
Ari, I kicked you in the stomach. I know that it hurt you when I kicked you in the stomach. I take responsibility for kicking you in the stomach. I recognize that you were just innocently standing there when I chose all on my own to kick you in the stomach. I regret that mommy saw me kick you in the stomach. Please forgive me for kicking you in the stomach. I promise that mommy will never see me kick you in the stomach again. Would you like to kick me in the stomach?
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